The perfect learning environment might include a library filled with rich literature neatly packed into floor-to-ceiling bookshelves. There might be a light-filled room in which serious studies could take place with tables, comfortable workstations, and plenty of storage space for supplies. The perfect environment in which to learn might include an activity room full of Legos, Tinkertoys, solar system mobiles, art supplies, science equipment, and a media center. It might also include a twenty-acre backyard full of farm animals, stocked ponds, and garden paths.
Don’t have a place quite like this? The perfect environment in which to learn will depend less on the rooms you decorate than on the atmosphere you cultivate!
So much of what we do in educating at home revolves around setting up an atmosphere conducive to real learning. Cultivating such an atmosphere involves being aware of what our children are thinking, what their interests are, and what they need in order to accomplish their goals. The best way for me to accomplish this is through my personal relationship with my children.
If genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration, then homeschooling is one percent academics and ninety-nine percent relationship! After all, education is a broad term that touches on the heart, mind, and soul of our children including their mental, physical, and spiritual training. That training is best conducted within the confines of a nurturing relationship with our children.
In our home that relationship is strengthened when I take time to:
- Listen — really listen — to all that excites and interests them.
- Look into their eyes when they speak to me.
- Pass on that hug of encouragement or touch of understanding.
- Lovingly address matters of character before they develop into something more than a simple bad habit.
It is through our relationships that we have the potential to teach heart-to-heart.
- Relationships: The Key to Mentoring
“Without these relationships any education is void of the living stuff that makes learning stick.”
- Making an Investment in Our Children
Different ways we can develop our relationship with them.
A Receptive Atmosphere
“I would rather my child had a limited curriculum and access to limited educational resources, and yet learned by basking in the atmosphere of someone who had true pleasure in the books that were pursued, than that he should go to some well-equipped and soulless situation where, theoretically, he could ‘learn’ at optimum speed.”Susan Schaeffer Macaulay, For the Children’s Sake
Parents are a child’s best cheerleaders. We can listen, understand, empathize, train, guide, and inspire! As mentors we can appreciate each child as an individual; recognizing the gifts that he has been blessed with and that make him who he is.
If we are receptive, and understand the traits that make up each individual child’s personality, then we will be better able to encourage him along the way. If we can see things through his eyes, we will be better able to know when to slow down to overcome a weakness or speed up to avoid frustration, and how to inspire his creativity.
- 3 Considerations When Setting the Atmosphere
Ideas for teaching heart-to-heart.
- Expectations… Performance… Consequences
Maintaining our relationship with our children…even when they disappoint us.
A Consistent Atmosphere
All children thrive within a consistent routine. When they have this constancy of knowing what to expect next, it is easier for them to develop good habits — habits that will serve them throughout their lifetime. Some families will operate on a schedule, others will prefer to work in time blocks, and still others from a to-do list. While the organizing principle may vary, the goal remains to provide our children with a consistent routine.
If my child knows that he is expected to have his bed made each morning before coming down to breakfast, there will be much less grumbling, and complaining — particularly after the first or second time he tests to see if I “really” mean it, and finds that I most certainly do!
- 9 Tips for Moving from Chaos to Peace
Ideas for establishing a steady routine.
- 10 Ideas for Overcoming Lazy Habits
Not at all implying that those without a routine are lazy! However, there are tips in this article that may help some develop routines.
Time to Think
In today’s world our children are typically over-scheduled. Mom runs a taxi service from one activity to another, and the child’s entire day is organized for him.
Children (as well as adults) need time to think — to absorb all that they are learning and coming into contact with. This is not to imply they need unscheduled time to sit and play a computer game! These unscheduled minutes can be used to read a book on their own, work on a favorite project, enjoy a hobby, work with their hands, or take a walk outside. In short our children can use these unscheduled minutes to just “be.”
Time to Read
What family doesn’t enjoy snuggling on the couch and sharing a great book? While it is certainly important that every child have the time and space to enjoy his own reading pursuits, family reading is also an important element of a rich learning environment. The shared experience, the characters we come to know, and the lively discussions fostered become part of our family culture.
Providing time and space to read with our children instills in them not only a love of reading, but also the notion that reading isn’t something we do solely in a “school” setting.
- Living Books
Time to read.
Time to be Inspired
Children need plenty of time and space for engaging in their own creative pursuits. It is during this time that they discover and cultivate their interests. For young children this time may have more of the appearance of play than learning; but let us not discount the learning that takes place through imaginative play.
When we see that our child has developed a new interest, we can encourage him to pursue the interest by providing him the time and resources he needs to follow it to its end.
- Learning Lifestyle
Ways to cultivate inspiration and exploration.
Time to Explore
Education doesn’t just happen inside four walls. We all grow through outdoor exploration. But it is especially important for children to have an opportunity to appreciate nature.
Nature exploration doesn’t have to be a “schoolish” activity. Rather, the more natural the interaction, the more meaning a child is likely to attach to it.
So prepare to get dirty, house bug collections, and watch tadpoles turn into frogs!
- 10 Ideas for Nature Study
Resources for enjoying nature.
Summer School for Mom: Establishing the Atmosphere
More here along with guiding questions to get you thinking!
For the Children’s Sake by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay
This warm and enthusiastic book encourages respecting each child’s individuality, providing a rich learning environment for our children, serving our children, providing for their growth, expecting excellence, developing good habits, and creating an atmosphere of acceptance; in short, “nurturing the minds and spirits” of our children. Read our entire review.